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Today is the day that we all say our final goodbyes to Mum.  Her funeral is at 1pm and then she will be buried and we will be having a party to celebrate her life.  I will be saying a eulogy in the church, I did for Dad too.  I have decided to talk about mum as a Grandma.

 

To our Grandma

Whist talking to the boys and Tori about Grandma, I decided to write down the things that made mum such a special Grandma to three wonderful children.

She lets us play what we want with her.

We get to bake and make traffic light jellies.

She is really happy when we are good.

We walk to see the penguins and then slide down the sea wall on our bums (resulting in holes in the bottom of trousers) and a grumpy mummy as she would never let us.

She always had a sweet or drink for us and gave the best cuddles in the whole wide world.

She made the best casserole in the country and breakfasts at Nobles were a treat for all the children and mum too, as it meant no cooking!

During our conversations, one thing kept coming back to me and it was time.

Mum gave them all time, her undivided attention and she showered them with her time.

Whether it be cuddling Finlay whilst watching Strictly Come Dancing or cutting up fabric with Tori to make dolls dresses or helping Robbie make a car track.  When she was with them she was theirs 100%.

Of all the losses, I believe that her Grandchildren’s is the greatest.  She was a good mum, but she was a great grandma.  She carried their images around in her purse getting them out to proudly show anyone and everyone.  She always said that Grandchildren were like Buses, she got one and then 2 more came along in quick succession.

Her grandchildren gave her a whole new lease of life, she stopped looking backward and started to look forward to the future.

We may not be able to hear mums voice anymore, but if you listen carefully you can hear her echo in her grandchildren.


44 thoughts on “Grandma”

  • Becky

    Jen…you are so like your mum fromt he attutude she showed your children to her smile. How wonderful. Time is the best of gifts but traffic light jellies sound pretty fab too, bles syou all. I’m so sorry for your loss. How fabulous you had her to be Grandma.

  • Tickled Pink

    That is a beautiful tribute and has brought a smile to my face as I read all the things that you have listed. Stay strong, and sending you all lots of love.

  • Hannah

    What a wonderful Grandma – I wish the people in our lives would realise that time is the most precious thing they can offer.

    Thinking of you all today and sending much love xx

  • Alethea

    Oh Jen, that is such a beautiful and special post. It’s so wonderful that the children had her in their lives for as long as they did, making so many special memories.

    I will be thinking of you today, but specially at 1pm.

  • Chris at Thinly Spread

    Beautifully expressed, how lucky you all are to have her in your lives. You are in my thhoughts and in my heart today (even more than usual) and I have lit a candle in my window for your Mum. Lots of love to you and yours from me and mine. Chris xxx

  • elsie button

    what a truly touching tribute – your mum sounded amazing – you have so many happy memories. I am so sorry for your terrible loss, and will be thinking of you all (as i have been all along) today. lots of love xxxx

  • @Eviegracesmummy

    Beautiful words with a lesson give your loved ones all your attention when you have them, never know how long we have so let’s make the most of it. Thinking of you Jen especially today love Sara xxx

  • Dara

    Oh Jen,
    I’m so sorry. I’ve been really out of the loop lately and had no idea.
    This is a brilliant tribute. Your children were so lucky to have your mum in their lives. And they are and she was incredibly lucky and blessed to have you.

  • Rock n Roll Mummy

    you mum looked so kind and cuddly the sort of person who you just want them to wap their arms round you and give you the biggest squeeze and tell you eveything will be ok. She’ll always be with you, memories last a life time and you have and will continue to make her so proud, lots of love you and your special family x

  • Carole

    Your Mum was a very lucky lady to have a daughter like you!

    She was truly loved by you and your boys. She will be with you all in your hearts everyday, talk about her often and smile through your tears as you remember all the happy times you spent together.

    With Love Carole x

  • wendy

    What a beautiful post , written with such emotion. It is going to be a tough time for you all in the next few weeks. You have the strength to get through this and when you feel down read this post to help celebrate the life of a very special lady

    Thinking of you xxx

  • mummylimited

    That is so beautiful & how brave you are to have spoken on such a difficult day for you. I’m sure both your Mum & Dad would’ve been so proud.
    All of those things that her grandchildren remember and loved they will never forget and will treasure forever. I’m so glad that they have had that time with her and while it is heartbreaking that she is no longer here for you all they will carry her with them. I’m sure when they are grown at least one of them will persevere to make a casserole just like Grandma’s

  • Michelloui

    This was a beautiful, inspirational post. It made me think of both of my moms and all that they give my children and me. What an excellent idea to gather your children’s thoughts. I hope today went as well as it could. Thinking of you xox

  • Gemma

    Jen that is beautiful.

    I sure hope today went as well as possible. I hope you managed to find some peace and comfort. I know you have plenty of strength.

    Thinking of you all xxx

  • marketingtomilk

    Oh, Grandparents are so special aren’t they? I have loved looking through all those wonderful pictures of your mum – she looks so very proud of her grandchildren. I know i hold these kinds of memories so close to my heart of my own father who passed away 3 years ago. It is so important to keep them alive.

    Big hugs

    M2Mx

  • Swanbythelakeside

    Your CommentsYou have lost a lot too – it is so lovely of you to think of the children, but remember to let yourself grieve for Yourself not just them. And I know you give them Time too, I think you are very good at that, just like your mum, even if you don’t realise it. I know all the best parts of me come from the best parts of my Mum (as well as my Dad) and I know you have so much to give the children in spite of her absence. Yesterday must have been so harrowing, and today such a blank space, wondering what to do next. Just be very kind to yourself xxxx.

  • Alexander Residence

    What a gorgeous collage, I can see so much pride, both in her grandchildren and in being a grandma.
    I admire you for doing the eulogy, it’s beautiful and very special.
    Thinking of you 🙂

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