This year is the first year that I feel comfortable celebrating Mothers Day without a mother. It is over three years since Mum died and yes I still miss her, but I no longer pine for her company like I used to.
My new normal is actually becoming normal. Now that is a sentence I never thought I would write!
This was one of my Mum’s happiest days (Maxi and my Niece’s christening) – She beamed all day
The thing is I love Mothers Day, for a long time I never thought I would be a mother and now I am it is something that I adore and hate in equal measure. I find it the hardest job in the world, it is either really hard or really great. There is no happy medium in my parenting, no matter how much I wish there was.
Mothers Day is a reminder that many, many women have managed to do this job successfully before me and to also express thanks and gratitude for the women that have shaped me and my family.
We made a Mothers Day card for my mother in law and we might not always see eye to eye but she did a pretty good job raising MadDad!
I never appreciated my mum until I was a mother and I see her in me more and more each passing day and whereas in the past this would have made me shudder and panic, I realised a couple of weeks ago at a family funeral that there were worse people to turn in to.
Mothers day cards 2014
I had this epiphany whilst sat round the table with most of my cousins as we reminisced about our fantastic childhood which we spent together. We are all parents and grandparents now and pretty much are all turning or have turned in to our parents.
So Happy Mothers Day to everyone.
I know what you mean about loving and hating Mother’s day in equal measure. My mother and I do not see eye to eye very often. Since becoming a mother I realise what a terrible job she did with me (she’s a recovering drug addict). Since having a girl it is even harder to accept any comments she makes in relation to the family. The kids like her but it is really difficult for me to be around her. I hope that I do a much better job than she did and I pray that my kids want to know me when they are adults x
@Liveseygirl. You need to remember that your Mother is not responsible for your happiness that you are and you know what my mum was a much better grandma than a mother, she really rocked!
Happy Mother’s Day! X
The cards are fab what your kids have made .x
Happy Mothers Day lovely lady x x
Happy mother’s day!
Happy Mother’s Day, I hope you had a lovely time x
Happy Mother’s Day to you.
Happy mothers day to you too xxx
Hope you had a lovely day x
Sorry to hear about your mother. Lovely post, happy mothers day.
Aww lovely cards form the kids…happy mothers day!
Happy mother’s day x A lovely post, thank you for sharing
Brilliant photo, I am glad that you can enjoy this day again x
Happy Mother’s day to you lovely, and am glad it is a bit less painful for you to celebrate Mother’s day. Thsi year will be my first for Father’s Day, and am dreading it ;(
Beautiful post. Sorry for your loss. This sentence – “I never appreciated my mum until I was a mother” – really resonated with me. I’ve always loved my mum, but it’s only in the last few years that I’ve fully realised how incredible she is.
so sorry for your loss Jen, I’m so glad its getting a bit easier. thanks so sharing xx
Home made cards are the best aren’t they. I am sure your mum is looking down smiling at you and your family and encouraging you to have funxxx