I didn’t know whether or not to do The Gallery this week. It is something that I pop in and out of when it suits my blog and I have to admit the prompt of mother love had me all of a quiver this week, as I so miss my mum and the mothers love that she provided.
We may not have agreed on everything and over the years we certainly had our ups and down, but I did feel protected in her cape of mothers love. She was there for me when I had my operations and held my hand through countless miscarriages and nightmares about dead babies when the last thing I wanted to do was close my eyes. She was there for me when I spent most of Maxi’s pregnancy in hospital, traveling the 350 miles by bus to come and sit by my side in hospital for the week before he was born, even sleeping there.
Then I read Rosie Scribble’s post about being a good enough mother and it took me to the conversation that a group of blogging mums (Rosie, Peggy from Perfectly Happy Mum, Nova from Cherished my me and Pippa from a Mothers Ramblings ) had at the weekend at a fab family event with Vosene family Values (more about that later) about being the right mother for our children. I am a great believer that we provide the right love and the right environment for our children and if you ask them, they will tell you that you are the best mum in the whole wide world.
My mothers love is an echo of my own mothers love and I hope that it will perpetuate for generations to come. When I am feeling like I am not a good enough mother, all I do is look at the chalk board in my kitchen for a gentle reminder.
I think I shall take that message away with me today – so true.
I was thinking about you on Mother’s Day. I hope your boys helped the pain a little.
Lovely post. You hit the nail on the head with the words ‘protected in the cape of mothers love’. As long as children feel that they’ll be just fine. And I’m certain you still feel that cape of love now even though your mother can no longer be with you in person. Really, she hasn’t left you. xx
You are so right, as long as my daughter knows she is loved unconditionally and she’s happy then I am taking the lessons from my mother and grandmother down the generations.
A lovely and very meaningful message! Emma
What a lovely thought to read everyday Jen.
perfect and so true. a wonderful post for the theme – I’m so glad you went for it. X
Such wise words and lovely sentiment. I love the idea of having a chalkboard in the kitchen too. x
Such a good idea to keep those quotations to hand: a lovely bittersweet post. Thinking of you, as ever.
I love both of those mottoes – I’m going to print them out and stick them on my fridge. Thanks so much for sharing 🙂
Great post Jen. I thought about you on Mother’s Day (meant to tweet you – sorry).
I’ve been thinking about this a lot too – and nearly wrote a post about it but it’s been shelved for now. In all the blogs I read (the parenting ones anyway), what comes up time and time again I find is mothers worrying they’re not perfect. The word perfection comes up again and again. And yet we all know that no-one’s perfect and can’t possibly be, so why do we keep torturing ourselves with the idea of it? Answers on a postcard please.
Hi, I’m running late for a Pause in Lent and enjoyed reading this post and the last one. What a sweet legacy your dear mum left. I loved reading so many of your wonderful family memories. And what a great point you’ve made. Thank you for these very encouraging posts. Praying for you for encouragement and comfort as well.
You really touched a nerve with me here. I do believe that you are ‘given’ the right children. But sometimes its a real test.
This is a general discussion I often have with my hubby, I feel more at home in my Mothers house than my own. Its like she has a little protected nest. I wonder if my children will feel the same.
Always remember that your mother is still here with you Jen x
Lovely post. Giving you a big cyber hug. x
What a lovely post. Keep it close and always in your heart. x
Wise words in a lovely post and what’s perfect for one isn’t perfect for another is it.
How fab is that chalkboard with those words on! X