There is no one way to be a perfect mother 15

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I didn’t know whether or not to do The Gallery this week.  It is something that I pop in and out of when it suits my blog and I have to admit the prompt of mother love had me all of a quiver this week, as I so miss my mum and the mothers love that she provided.

We may not have agreed on everything and over the years we certainly had our ups and down, but I did feel protected in her cape of mothers love.  She was there for me when I had my operations and held my hand through countless miscarriages and nightmares about dead babies when the last thing I wanted to do was close my eyes.  She was there for me when I spent most of Maxi’s pregnancy in hospital, traveling the 350 miles by bus to come and sit by my side in hospital for the week before he was born, even sleeping there.

Then I read Rosie Scribble’s post about being a good enough mother and it took me to the conversation that a group of blogging mums (Rosie, Peggy from Perfectly Happy Mum, Nova from Cherished my me and  Pippa from a Mothers Ramblings ) had at the weekend at a fab family event with Vosene family Values (more about that later) about being the right mother for our children.  I am a great believer that we provide the right love and the right environment for our children and if you ask them, they will tell you that you are the best mum in the whole wide world.

My mothers love is an echo of my own mothers love and I hope that it will perpetuate for generations to come.  When I am feeling like I am not a good enough mother, all I do is look at the chalk board in my kitchen for a gentle reminder.


There is no one way to be the perfect mother, but a million ways to be a good one.
Being Happy doesn’t mean everything is perfect, It means that you have decided to look beyond the imperfections


15 thoughts on “There is no one way to be a perfect mother”

  • Rosie Scribble

    Lovely post. You hit the nail on the head with the words ‘protected in the cape of mothers love’. As long as children feel that they’ll be just fine. And I’m certain you still feel that cape of love now even though your mother can no longer be with you in person. Really, she hasn’t left you. xx

  • Liz@VioletPosy

    You are so right, as long as my daughter knows she is loved unconditionally and she’s happy then I am taking the lessons from my mother and grandmother down the generations.

  • geekmummy

    I love both of those mottoes – I’m going to print them out and stick them on my fridge. Thanks so much for sharing 🙂

  • Deer Baby

    Great post Jen. I thought about you on Mother’s Day (meant to tweet you – sorry).

    I’ve been thinking about this a lot too – and nearly wrote a post about it but it’s been shelved for now. In all the blogs I read (the parenting ones anyway), what comes up time and time again I find is mothers worrying they’re not perfect. The word perfection comes up again and again. And yet we all know that no-one’s perfect and can’t possibly be, so why do we keep torturing ourselves with the idea of it? Answers on a postcard please.

  • Kaye Swain

    Hi, I’m running late for a Pause in Lent and enjoyed reading this post and the last one. What a sweet legacy your dear mum left. I loved reading so many of your wonderful family memories. And what a great point you’ve made. Thank you for these very encouraging posts. Praying for you for encouragement and comfort as well.

  • claire

    You really touched a nerve with me here. I do believe that you are ‘given’ the right children. But sometimes its a real test.

    This is a general discussion I often have with my hubby, I feel more at home in my Mothers house than my own. Its like she has a little protected nest. I wonder if my children will feel the same.

    Always remember that your mother is still here with you Jen x

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