Miscarriage is something that many woman do not talk about, it often feels like a secret club that you only become aware of once you have experianced the pain. Then people will often tell you that they had a miscarriage too.
As one of these 1 in 4 woman I have to say that I experienced a wide range of emotions when it came to my miscarriages and also to peoples reactions to them. My first experience of miscarriage was losing twins at 20 weeks, which was truly horrendous. I don’t think I could ever explain the horrors that we went through. What has remained with me from that time was other peoples reactions and comments, which ranged from a polite I am sorry for your loss to a completely inappropriate “oh but they were not yet babies”
I think that woman should be a little more open about the terrible things that miscarriages can bring, they can shatter dreams and tear apart hearts.
So my heart goes out to Lily Allen, I can not imagine her loss, but I can remember mine.